This goes without saying but with any difficult endeavor, people won’t always react the way you want them to when you tell them about it. I’m specifically referring to my weight loss goals. My first and toughest job was to convince myself that I had a problem and wrangle amd control it – it’s really not easy. I love to eat, and changing long lasting eating and exercising habits takes a lot of concentration and focus. And sooner or later, when you stick to it and you’re doing what you need to, you’ll start to feel better, you’ll have more energy and feel your body changing. Here are some things that have happened to me:
1. People see you after a while and they don’t say how much healthier you look or that you’ve lost any weight; they just don’t notice
Yes, you want your hard work to be recognized and it stings when no one notices. I often second guess whether I’m just seeing my body change because I really want it to. Here’s the bottom line; your body will respond if you’re doing all the right things. Sometimes the people who see you everyday just won’t notice because it’s such a minute and gradual change. Give it some time, and be patient. Don’t let it deter you from what you’ve been doing, because in the end, you’re making a change for you – not for other people.
2. People see you after a while and say “I don’t see much of a change, really” after you tell them you’ve been working out and eating right
This one bothers me the most; while some people can be encouraging and say “Good for you! Atta girl! What kind of things are you eating/doing?” Others, sometimes without meaning to, can make you feel so discouraged that you feel like reverting to your old habits. I’ve found that the best strategy at this point, is to let it go and look at records of all your hard work, whether it’s before and after pictures where you can see the difference for yourself, or look at what you’ve been eating for the past few weeks on your food diary. (Easier said than done, I know)
This unfortunately happened to me a few days ago, and although it wasn’t intended to be mean spirited, I took it to heart! I looked at pictures that snapped me back into focus. All that matters is that YOU can see and feel a difference, and I did. To the left is a picture of me a few months ago, and the right is a picture of me taken one week ago!
3. The scale does not reflect the hard work you’ve been putting in; I call this “The Plateau”
This is happening to me right now, and it is so difficult to stay motivated when you’re working so hard, and the scale just stays put. I wrote a post a few weeks ago where I describe why it’s important not to weigh yourself everyday. I distanced myself from the “number” of it all, and just put blinders on. I’ve developed self control and discipline- especially with eating and exercising, I apply both to keeping the focus. I weigh myself once a week, and that’s all I need to keep track of where I’m at! I read this article by Andie Mitchell that seems apt.
I’m currently at 144 pounds and have been for quite a number of days.